I was watching Logo (gay and lesbian television network) earlier today and there was a program on about gay and lesbian people and the problems they face at work. The part that really caught my attention was a segment about a beautician coming out to her boss who is also her best friend. I noticed how hurt the lesbian woman was when her best friend reacted negatively and tried to anoint her with holy oil. Her friend assured her that her job wasn’t in danger but that public intimacy was prohibited. It must be said that her friend did later come to terms with her homosexuality but still lingered with a level of homophobia. As I was watching this segment the question that hit me was, what’s an appropriate reaction when coming out? It is OK for to have an “I don’t care what the hell you think” type attitude with people or does it matter who the person is? Is it necessary to “respect” the feelings of the person I’m telling? When I began coming out to people I was never really afraid of what they thought of me, I was more afraid of what I would think of them if they had a negative reaction to my coming out. As I watched this program I really wanted the lesbian woman to just say, “hey this is my life, you can be my friend or kick rocks.” That’s essentially what I said to most of the people I came out to. I guess it comes a time in ones life where you have to be yourself and people have to accept you as you are. It’s not like the woman was confessing about a past drug addiction, I don’t know maybe it’s me but for whatever reason, I got really annoyed.